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15 Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship

If your mate is displaying a combination of these behaviors, then you may have a potential batterer on your hands.

1. A push for a quick involvement: Comes on very strong, claiming, "Iíve never felt loved like this by anyone." An Abuser pressures the woman for an exclusive commitment almost immediately.

2. Jealousy: Excessively possessive; calls constantly or visits unexpectedly: prevents you from going to work because Ďyou might meet someone;" checks the mileage on your car.

3. Controlling: Interrogates you intensely (especially if youíre late) about whom you talked to, and where you were; keeps all the money.

4. Unrealistic expectations: Expects you to be the perfect woman and meet his every need.

5. Isolation: Tries to cut you off from family and friends; accuses people who are your supporters of "causing trouble."

6. Blames others for problems and mistakes: The boss, itís always someone elseís fault if anything goes wrong.

7. Makes everyone else responsible for his feelings: The abuser says, "You make me angry instead of, "I am angryí or, "Youíre hurting me by not doing what I tell you." Less obvious is the claim "You make me happy."

8. Hypersensitivity: Is easily insulted, claiming that his feelings are hurt when he is really mad. Heíll rant about the injustice of things that are just part of life.

9. Cruelty to animals and to children: Kills or punishes animals brutally. Also may expect children to do things that are far beyond their ability (whips a 3-year-old for wetting a diaper) or may tease them until they cry.

10. "Playful" use of force during sex: Enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will during sex; says he &is the idea of rape exciting.

11. Verbal abuse: Constantly criticizes you, or says blatantly cruel, hurtful things; degrades, curses, calls you ugly names. This may also involve sleep deprivation, waking you up with relentless verbal abuse.

12. Rigid sex roles: Expects you to serve, obey and remain at home

13. Sudden mood swings: Switches from sweetly loving to explosively violent in a trotter of minutes or even more confusing, within seconds.

14. Past battering: Admits hitting women in the past, but says they made him do it or the situation brought in on.

15. Threats of violence: Makes statements like, "Iíll break your neck," or "Iíll kill you" and then dismisses them with, "Everybody talks that way," or "I didnít really mean it." If he has come this far, it is time to get help and get out!

Adapted from "Signs to Look for in a Battering Personality", from the Project for Victims of Family Violence. Fayetteville. Ark.

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